| What’s Love got to do With It? |
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| Written by Judie Mackie | |||||||
| Monday, 20 October 2008 08:29 | |||||||
 People come in and out of our lives because they are teaching us something that we need to learn. Have you met someone you liked instantly? Of course you have. There is something enlightening about that person in which you felt an instant attraction.How about the person you took an immediate disliking to? Both of these souls can offer you wisdom, you just need to remain open to the lesson plan. It is easy to learn from someone you like, but how do you bite your tongue and see what the person you are not fond of has to offer? First of all, by being open to the possibility of someone you do not particularly care for being able to teach you something, you have already learned not to prejudge. You’ve learned to be open minded and you are learning patience. If nothing else, you are learning the “what NOT to do’s” of life! What about love at first sight? Is it possible? Sure it is possible, but is it love or is it a predestined lesson for you to learn? When we feel attraction to someone, perhaps some of that feeling of infatuation is really coming from a potential revelation? My father always said, “It was impossible to have a platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex.” Even when I was a teenager, I argued this point with him. I have always been able to have nonsexual relationships with my male friends, from my school days thru today. This doesn’t mean I have never found myself curious about what the experience would be like with a few of them. But by choosing not to find out, I believe it has helped me to remain married to the same man for over 18 years. There are five levels of intimacy and sex is number five. To know whether an attraction is true love or another lesson, I would suggest you conquer levels one thru four first. 1. Develop a close personal relationship. Do you know what makes them laugh and what makes them sad? Do you trust each other enough to share secrets? Can you pick up the telephone and call them without hesitation knowing they won’t feel bothered by your call? 2. Sharing your quiet space is a deeper sense of intimacy. When you can sit quietly together and no one feels awkward about the silence. Try it. Sit down and simply be quiet. No kissing, reading or rented DVD to fill the space, simply try sharing quiet time together and see how it makes each of you feel. 3. Knowing detailed knowledge about your friend is very important to a lasting relationship. Normally this results from a long association with someone, or perhaps stalking may uncover detailed knowledge as well, though “stalkers” freak me out, so don’t do it! Do you know that she may break out in a rash if she has too many fresh strawberries? Do you know that he has a fear of spiders so intense that if caught off guard he may shriek and scream like a teenaged girl? Has he told you the reason behind that tattoo? Has she told you why she cries every single time she hears Cats in the Cradle? 4. Sharing a private or personal utterance or action with someone is not something you should be sharing with just anyone. If you have gotten this far along in the relationship, it is time to discover and explore personal and private language between the two of you. Secret words or phrases, pet names, a certain look or a touch conveys a multitude of words and when the two of you are in sync and understand this private form of communication, you may be ready to move on to number five. 5. Sex – funny how a three lettered word can say so much. Obviously, there is no secret to knowing if this is your “soul mate” or if this is yet another learning experience. From some of those in our lives, you have compatibility combined with the desire of learning life long lessons together. Just remain sensitive to the possibility that the person who sparks an interest in us, may be there for a lesson. By remaining a bit more cautious about what is truly going on; you may realize this is not the love of your life, but someone in your life to teach you - self discipline, perhaps? When you ask someone to name a person in their life that they have respect for and why, you’ll see that the traits they claim to respect of that person are the same traits they themselves wish they had more of. When you can identify those qualities that you admire most in the person you felt drawn to, it will help you learn what things may be missing or need improvement in yourself. I adore all of my friends and I don’t try to analyze why they are in my life or for how long. Sometimes I do wonder “what” it is I am supposed to be learning from them. But, most of all, I try to simply enjoy and appreciate the time we have been given to share.
3.25 Copyright (C) 2007 Alain Georgette / Copyright (C) 2006 Frantisek Hliva. All rights reserved." |
Market Notes
January 6, 2009 Stocks fell on Monday as investors booked profits after last week's run-up, while concerns about slowing cell phone sales hit shares of the biggest telecommunications companies. Financial stocks also slumped after Deutsche Bank cut its earnings forecast on 16 large commercial banks, including JPMorgan Chase & Co another Dow component. JPMorgan fell nearly 7 percent. The Dow Jones industrial average .DJI fell 81.80 points, or 0.91 percent, to 8,952.89. The Standard & Poor's 500 Index .SPX shed 4.35 points, or 0.47 percent, to 927.45. The Nasdaq Composite Index . slid 4.18 points, or 0.26 percent, to 1,628.03. We spent the day polling stock analysts; they all think we are in for a minor Obama rally but our technical charts don’t show it. It’s a mixed bag folks. Think about it this way Tech company Logitech is laying off people, while the FBI initiates its largest hiring spree in its history. We're living in interesting times. Be careful, very careful. |
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